My happiness my husband 48 years young

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My happiness my husband 48 years young

by Loveurself on Sun Jun 24, 2018 09:57 PM

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My husband was 48years young and is my best friend my happiness.My husband passed away in my arms on the 22nd of May 2018 .Gee I really am hating the world right now and it’s not a healthy place to be.Brento n my husband died of RCC RENAL KIDNEY CANCER MATASTISED TO THE LUNGS BRAIN AND LIVER. We decided that he would be staying home with me and not going to hospice . I have to admit, I’m lost and feel so sad that I can’t wrap my head around the fact I will never hear his voice or be able to see him again .It is a life sentence being the one left behind.I am a strong ,independent women but we all have a breaking point and I think I have hit that wall now.I am very thankful my husband is free of the pain now ,for that I am grateful .But for having to live without him is just plain cruel,Cancer is cruel it is sole destroying and I don’t know if I can be here for 20 or so years without him because I know I don’t want to.My husband was the most beautiful person I have ever met.And I will honour him always.You never know what’s around the corner ,but I would never of guessed I would be without my best friend my happiness. My husband.

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by smyrnalover on Fri Jun 29, 2018 02:41 AM

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I lost my wife of 49 years in January. She was my lover and best friend. We basically grew up together and I was looking forward to a long retirement together. I feel so cheated and angry. I keep expecting to hear her voice again and I know it won’t happen. This is so hard and nothing prepares you for life alone. I can’t help but be angry at those posters who claim that their faith in God saved them. My wife was a woman of immense faith, but that faith didn’t help. I am still alone. So you’re right about it being soul-destroying. I can’t offer any wise words other than to say we are in this same leaky life-raft together.

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by tashalex on Fri Jun 29, 2018 07:22 AM

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I am so sorry for your loss, and i know there are no words of comfort. I too have been there, cancer destroyed my mom who was still so full of life, and in 8 months it took her away. in such a cruel and shocking way. it was a year ago, and i felt alot like you. angry, confused and i didnt understand WHY!!

You are in my thoughts...there really is nothing more i can say to comfort you as i know the overwhelming saddness you are feeling now cannot be comforted.

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by StephenS on Fri Sep 07, 2018 05:49 PM

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Dear Loveurself,

I did not respond immediately to your outcry of pain and sorrow at the loss of your spouse and best friend as the pain you were suffering was so great that I felt you would not listen to what I have to say.  I lost my wife to pancreatic cancer four and one half years ago and the pain and loss is as great today as it was on the first day after she died. We did not even know she had cancer until it was too late and on our first visit with the oncologist he handed us a phone number and said call them [hospice], you have three to eight weeks to live there is nothing we can do.  Believe me there are hundreds, no hundreds of thousands of us out here who share in this pain and loss and we all understand how you feel.  I encourage you to turn to our Lord for his help and guidance to see you through.  We [God and I] are on a first name basis. He has been carrying me for over four years now and he does not complain.  He soothes the hurt and grants me glimmers of sunshine as he shows me the path of life that I am following.  Do not become a recluse.  if you have family and/or friends get together.  Remember him by talking about all the good times you had.  We are all hear for you.  I promise I will not ignore your call nor will any of the other members.  We are united in our loss. The only way that you will not suffer and hurt from the loss is if the next time you marry someone you hate.  That way you ill not miss them.  Otherwise you are part of our family, the ones who were given the very best spouse "for them" and we welcome you with our arms open

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by StanToronto on Tue Sep 11, 2018 04:20 PM

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Smyrnalover,

I don't understand your anger toward those who claim that God healed them. There are a lot of things that happen in this world that cannot be explained scientifically, and of course cannot be verified one way or the other.

My wife and I had a very strong faith in God, yet God did not heal her. All God did was keep us informed on His plan for her.

But God had already given us the His answer to our prayers before we even started. On the very first night in hospital, after my wife had been diagnosed with pancreatic cancer, God told her that her 70 years here had expired, and He was going to take her Home.

A few days before she was diagnosed, author Karen Kingsbury had sent her box full of books as a gift, which Karen had signed, along with a Jeremiah 29:11 postscript. My wife was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer, 7 days after her 71st birthday. At the end of the her first evening in hospital the front cover of the book she had been reading, curled up revealing Karen's postscript. My wife asked "What is Jer 29:11?" I didn't have a clue, so I looked it up on my tablet.  

You will be in exile for seventy years. But then I will come and do for you all the good things I have promised and bring you home. For I know the plans I have for you, says the Lord. They are plans for good and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope. Jeremiah 29:10,11

And indeed, her 70 years had expired. She never saw the end of her 71st year.

It is now 3 years and 3 months since I lost her. How has my faith helped me? In many ways I have nothing to compare it to.

- First of all, it has given me HOPE for the future.

- I don't know if it has helped with my grief and sorrow. It is difficult to imagine how my debilitaing grief and sorrow could be any worse.

- I have never been at all angry throughout the entire process, such as those who have no faith.

So, whatever beliefs we have in miraculous healing, there comes a point when it obviously no longer works, because non of us ever get out of here alive. :-) 

I think the most difficult part of the entire process, is adjusting to the loneliness of our new life. Life will never be the same again, and all the hopes a dreams planned for our latter years have suddenly been dashed to pieces. And regardless of faith, finding anything remaining that might attract my interest or give life meaning, has eluded me. 

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