Making bed more comfortable

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Making bed more comfortable

by CountryMom27 on Fri Dec 24, 2010 04:37 AM

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My father-in-law was diagnosed Sept of '99 with stage 4 neck cancer.  Multiple rounds of chemo and radiation, and right now the tumor isn't growing (remission not an option for his type of cancer).  

His vocal chords are partially paralyzed, but he can speak a raspy whisper, just cannot eat or swallow, so for the last year he's been on a feeding tube.

My question is this - with the tube, he's in bed 12 hrs a day.  His neck and head bother him from sitting up in bed, so we bought him a pillow wedge for watching TV, and possibly for elevating his head when he needs it during sleep.  

The wedge was an inexpensive one at Bed Bath & Beyond.  I've seen others online, nothing overly impressive.  Has anyone else found something useful to relieve the neck/head pressure while sitting up/partially reclined in bed for a time?  

I've also thought about the bead-filled warming scarves, as we have to be careful about putting something too warm on his scars from radiation.  

Any tips you can provide to make him more comfortable would be appreciated.  Thanks!

RE: Making bed more comfortable

by Roselvr on Sat Jan 01, 2011 01:59 PM

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Do you mean September 2009 or 1999? You wrote 99; but I have a feeling you mean 2009.

Does he have a forumla pump for the night?

His neck is going to hurt; some people are left numb; while others have horrible pain. My hub does pretty well; he's still numb a year later but every now & then he has pain. He uses Actiq pops; said they are the best for neck/throat pain.

Is he on medication?

Also, you might want to check out the head & neck section

RE: Making bed more comfortable

by carrie1974 on Mon Jun 15, 2015 08:44 PM

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Recliner??  

RE: Making bed more comfortable

by appremoozae on Tue May 24, 2016 09:48 AM

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Sometimes the harder you work and play the better sleep you get. I'm very aware of not getting good sleep and it sucks. I have problems with insomnia and other health issues that cause chronic pain which really mess up my sleep. I have had these issues for over 10 years. Now the good news. What I have found by keeping journals is that my comfort level when laying in bed is really associated to how happy I am. Keep a journal and you will discover the same thing I did. Think about this- When was the last time you had the best day of month or year and had discomfort laying down or sleeping after-wards ? ? Using a light on a timer when you sleep will make you less depressed ( happier ) . No tv or bad noise helps. Add ( white ) noise helps. Getting your neck in a good position helps ( most important for most people ). Get comfortable pajamas, sheets, comfortable temperature in room. Pillow between Knees if you sleep on your side. Body pillow to snuggle with especially if you might be lonely. Talk on the phone to a lover while in bed. Wear something sexy. Pleasure yourself before you sleep. I bet you won't be uncomfortable on many, if any of those days. Good question. Be well. Life is soooooooooo easy when your happy. ............. Live.Learn.Teach.Smile.Laugh.Love
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