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angry yesterday

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angry yesterday

by eastwest on Fri Sep 09, 2011 11:54 PM

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One of Phil's fishing buddies (Bobby) has called here at least 5 times since Phil died in April leaving a message "Hey Phil give me a call." After the first 2 times I called another fishing club member and told him. He said Bobby had gotten out of the hospital and he spoke to him and the Bobby called and apologized to me. Said he was calling another Phil and would remove our number. Well, yesterday he called twice. First time I let it go on the machine. But last night I picked it up. He said he was sorry but then said "Since I have you on the phone is there anything I can do for you?" Yeah the widow is an after thought on the wrong number. I was kind of curt and said no. But I felt like saying stop calling and asking Phil to call you! About ready to change my number.Bad enough people who don't know that he died still call. irene

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by Kurlysue on Sat Sep 10, 2011 01:18 PM

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On Sep 09, 2011 11:54 PM eastwest wrote:

One of Phil's fishing buddies (Bobby) has called here at least 5 times since Phil died in April leaving a message "Hey Phil give me a call." After the first 2 times I called another fishing club member and told him. He said Bobby had gotten out of the hospital and he spoke to him and the Bobby called and apologized to me. Said he was calling another Phil and would remove our number. Well, yesterday he called twice. First time I let it go on the machine. But last night I picked it up. He said he was sorry but then said "Since I have you on the phone is there anything I can do for you?" Yeah the widow is an after thought on the wrong number. I was kind of curt and said no. But I felt like saying stop calling and asking Phil to call you! About ready to change my number.Bad "" target="_blank" rel="nofollow">http://number.Bad " target="_blank" rel="nofollow">number.Bad enough people who don't know that he died still call. irene

Hi

This must be really hard for you. I can understand why you feel anger, but I can also see it from your husbands friend's point of view.

I do not think for one minute you were an afterthought on the wrong number. I don't know how close Bobby was to your husband, but instead of believing him insensitive, maybe he may be missing him as well.  Bobby may be trying to reach out to you and may need to talk, and by helping you it maybe possibly helping him to stay close to a dear friend?

I don't know all the circumstances, and I could be very wrong. However if this could be the case, it may help you having someone close to your Husband to sit and share memories with. 

It is a very lonely path we walk when someone close to us dies, if we all had someone else to walk the path with, I honestly believe it will be easier.

I am not trying to give you advice, not at all.  I share your grief.  I have not begun to feel the anger yet, but I know I will, I just hope I have someone beside me who will happily sit and listen and share every emotion I am sure to go through at this time.

Put your mind at rest, don't change your number please there are too many people who care for you and changing your number will alienate you from people who want to help and reach out to you. 

I hope all goes well, and take very good care.

Sending lots of love Keri X

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