house warming for granddaughter

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house warming for granddaughter

by eastwest on Sat Sep 24, 2011 12:48 PM

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My oldest granddaughter and her man just closed on a house yesterday. So we went over to see it. It is cute and they are cute and I was happy to see them so happy and excited. Then I came home to silence and it slammed into me of how Phil and I felt when we bought our home back in 1974. All the hopes and dreams we had. Some realized but many never to be now for us. And the house is half alive or half dead. Is it still "Our" house or is it "mine"? What once was is no longer. Irene

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by dholloway59 on Sat Sep 24, 2011 12:58 PM

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Irene,

I sure DO know how you feel.

((((BIG HUG  AND PRAYERS COMING YOUR WAY))))

GOD BLESS YOU..

Dorothy

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by JuJuBean on Sat Sep 24, 2011 02:54 PM

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Irene, My heart goes out to you. You have many more days ahead when the alone "gets to you".  People say "time heals" and that is so hard to believe as we grieve for our mate. But you know "It's true". Each time you cross a hurdle the next one will probably get shorter. I live alone but I do have a large supportive family. My husband passed away in 1981 and I was left with a sick Father who died just weeks after my husband. I had very little time to grieve, so my process was very long and strung out. I also had three teenage daughters to get through HS and beyond. I'm proud to say I did it. I worked in a man's world when that wasn't kool! I was bucked every way possible and had to fight the Bra Burning Era but I did what had to be done. I guess what I'm saying is the old addage of "staying busy" was my mantra.I did every thing from selling Forklifts (sometimes my sales were higher than the MEN). When I retired in 2002 after two MIs I was at the top of my game and still competing with the "good ole down south boys club". I guess I became a "good ole girl". Long story short, I put three daughters through undergrad school and still am helping Grandsons with their finances. If you have the luxury to snuggle up and miss your mate...do it. You deserve it. But you will soon begin to be more able to enjoy your children and grands. It takes "time"!  Love and best wishes and a great big hug...JuJu

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