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by sanjim on Thu Oct 13, 2011 11:08 PM

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I am expecting some of our friends to come for a visit, this will be the first time  they have been herer since Jim passed, the live 950 miles from us, I am getting nervous. They saw Jim last February, about 2 weeks before  Jim passed.I saw them in July when I made a trip north, I am looking fowarsd to seeing them, but it will be stange without Jim here, this couple are like our addopted children, they usually vist us twice a year. I guess this is another first, I am trying to put on my happy face. I am sure we will be taking many trips down memory lane, it is good to remember, but sometime it is hard to talk about Jim, i still miss him so much. I guess I will always miss him, I feel like part of me is gone.

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by eastwest on Fri Oct 14, 2011 12:06 PM

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I think your visit will be both sad and happy. 

A couple weeks before Phil passed we went to my cousin's house. During Phil's hospital stays and illness they came many times to see us. Just days before our last visit we learned my cousin was diagnosed with prostate cancer. Phil and I cried. Then we set up a day to go to their house. It was our first outing(other than dr and hospital) all winter.

Phil was begining to start the signs of aspiration again though he was denying it. It was a struggle to go the 75 miles but he wanted to. So we went and sat out on their deck and had a nice lunch and talk. On our way home I remarked that it was like a spring vacation to do that. Phil gave me a strange look. I think it was then he realized how horrible the winter had been for me with the snow and ice.

 A few weeks later he was gone. About a month later my cousin and his wife and I decided to get together. I decided to go up to their house. God that was rough, remembering the last time I'd been there. But so glad i went. We talked about funny fishing times with Phil that my cousin and i shared with him.

Somehow you will get through another of these firsts. hugs, Irene

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by sanjim on Fri Oct 21, 2011 01:30 AM

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We had a really good visit! both sad and happy, one of my friends lost her husband (we are very close friends) a year ago, we were really very good friends, the time they were went by to fast, we shared a lot of good memories, we cried a little and laughed a lot, just like we use to when our husbands were with us. I didn' think I could ever laugh again like that again. The younger couple also enjoy us telling our crazy stories about the old days. I can't wait to see then again, maybe next summer. I talk to them on the phone a lot, it was really great seeing them and getting a long awaited hug, it was great! Hugs Sandra

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by teachoz on Fri Oct 21, 2011 11:34 AM

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Hi, Sandra

Glad to hear you had such a nice visit!! I find that when I get together with old friends, it's the same...and if they seem uncomfortable about bringing up Joe, then I do, and we have some good laughs!! It's nice that we're both beginning to heal from our losses!

Mary Ann

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by eastwest on Fri Oct 21, 2011 12:30 PM

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Hi Sandra   I am so happy to hear about your visit with your friends. I know the first time I really laughed after Phil passed it seemed to strange. But I know he sure would ahve wanted me to and I am sure your husband would have wanted to see you smiling. hugs Irene

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