Just found out today my Mother has cervical cancer.

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Just found out today my Mother has cervical cancer.

by goldyxo on Fri Apr 18, 2014 02:00 AM

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I'm 23. I still feel like a child sometimes with where I am in my life. My Mom is 63-- had me when she was 40. I've never been through anything intense like this before, never have experienced loss from a loved one. I know that cervical cancer doesn't automatically mean a death sentence, but I'm still so scared for my mother. She is my favorite person on this entire planet and everyone knows she's a beautiful person when meeting her within five minutes. It didn't help when she said "It's okay honey, you still have some time with me." Growing up I always knew my Mom had me at a later age and that I would maybe have to see her fate earlier than other people my age, but I'm not ready. I need to stay strong for her. 

She said they found a bunch of cells all over her cervix cancer and will be taking continous pap smears. If anything, she might get a hysterectomy. 

I just need advice with how to cope with this. I feel so lost.

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by sue1234 on Fri Apr 18, 2014 02:21 AM

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It's such a shock when you hear the word "cancer" no matter if your the patient or caregiver. I've actually known quite a few people who have had complete hysterectomy's. The last time I heard, they were doing fine. They all had either chemotherapy or radiation after. Gather as much information from her team, ask questions, Google answers, take one day at a time. That's all you can do. Bless you and your mom.

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by DharmaGirl on Sat Apr 19, 2014 04:12 PM

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Sorry to hear about your mom. Cancer is a very scary thing. Just try to take one day at a time . My mom was my best friend so I understand wnat you are saying/feeling. 

Please let us know how things are going. 

Best D

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by NeverLand on Wed Sep 09, 2015 08:47 AM

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Goldynxo,

When I saw your post I started to get extremely emotional because I am 23 and my mother has cervical cancer as well but she is in her 40's and a smoker.I did not have the luxury of knowing my mom until I was 15  1/2 years old .Target was the location of where my father blurted out that he just saw my mother.I of course not knowing what she looked like and had only  the stories that people told me growning up  was what I had to go on and it was not really all that helpful.I had a whole store filled with potential mothers and I only wanted one .After that meeting we started to develop a relationship of sorts.It was'nt until I was 18 I really started get to know her and from then on it was like I knew her forever.She was my little PeterPan because she would never grow up .Then the cervical cancer decided to show up and ruin it .She went through chemo which in turn took her hair but made the cancer smaller .A couple years pass and I start to foolishly think that the cancer is gone and we can continue on with our life.But the cancer was not through with us yet it was now round two of the fight.She now has tumors on the outside of her lungs and her throat .According to a M.I.T nurse in her stupid opinion she believes my mother has .....5-6 years to live.....I cannot tell you how much that one sentance destroyed everything I was hoping for everything I longed for.For that one split second I visualized killing that nurse 100 times blaming her trying to find any faults she possessed.Of course I could'nt find anthing wrong with her so I made things up to make this seem unreal as if it were a nightmare that I could just wake up from.All I could think about was no she is my own PeterPan she'd could never die. I cried so much I feel like I could have caused the continuous rain fall that noah had to built a ark just to survive.She wants me to be her care giver and I am terrified that I will let her down or do something to mess everything up.Everyo ne around me is telling me have faith ,keep hope in my heart,keep a brave face for her, go to cancer therapy  the list could go on and on.My mom could befriend the grinch if she wanted to .When people say im so brave or strong for  taking care of my mom I look at them like they are crazy becuase I am not any of those things I am a scared little girl who is looking at everyone with doe-eyes.

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by Prettyroses on Sun Jan 10, 2016 04:55 PM

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Hello Goldyxo, it has been a while since your post. But I want you to know that I can relate. I am 18 years old and my mom was diagnosed with stage II large cell neuronendorince carcinoma of the cervix last summer. In one month, it rapidly spread to her liver and 2 lymphnodes...Stage 4. After 25 radiation treatments and 10 chemo aggresive chemo treatments, she now only has one tumor. It is amazing hw far we have come. Yet i am still scared to death. Right now we are impatiently waiting for a PET scan to see i the caner has spead or disapeared. Even if the cancer is "gone", i fear that it will come back and it will b too late. The doc said that since her cancer is s aggressive and rare, there is a higher chance of it coming back in a different place. My mom had me when she was 16 years old (now she is 34) so we like sisters. I cant imagine exsisting without her. She makes people laugh here ever she goes even now even though she is sick. She will bend over backwards for a person even if she had treatment the day before. I her so muh and she does not deserve this, and neither does your mom. My mom always said that there is a reason for everythng, and i am stil trying to figure it out. But there has to be a good reason because why would god do this. How is your mom doing? I am here to talk, i just signed up on this webste yesterday because i could not hold it in anymore and i feel alil bit better. If you need to Prvt message me, you can anytime.

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by Maddy13 on Sat Feb 24, 2018 07:39 PM

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Hi as you are going through it I was wondering if you could help me . I’m only 13 and may mum is 38, she has cervical cancer. I don’t know how I am meant to help flyers and be there for her. Please help me xx
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