WHY DO I CRY SO MUCH

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Why Do I Cry So Much

by StephenS on Sat Sep 19, 2015 04:19 PM

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I am a 69 year old man who lost his wife over twenty months ago and yet even today as i read some stories in readers digest about how we help each other in every day life because that is what a human being does.  He or she reaches out when someone else is in trouble brought tears to my eyes and the flood began.  I do not understand why every since my wife died i have become almost like "sarah burnheart [phonetic spelling]" overly sensitive and the tears triggered by almost anything.  This was never me before her death.  I was always passionate and in love with my wife but outside events held little in the way of triggering emotions.  Now i am a complete mess.  I'm not sure if the loss of my wife has made it impossible for me now to suffer even imagined losses or those of others or if there is an emotional embalance that should be discussed with a professional.  Anyone out there have any ideas or suggestions. 

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by Marie55 on Sun Sep 20, 2015 02:06 AM

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hI Stephen, I lost my husband 18 months ago. It has been one hard journey. My husband and I were each other's best friend. I am two years younger than you so feel your pain about losing the love of your life and not having your spouse to grow old with... We always spent lots of time together, and I was his caregiver for nine months while I watched him die of cancer. I made him the promise that he would die at home, and I kept that promise. He loved me, his home, his yard and he loved life. I still shed many tears, miss him every day. I still attend a support group. I try to add meaning to my life always and now I go visit a lady in assisted living who is under hospice care. Also, a neighbor has stage iv cancer and no family nearby, so I help out with food, taking her to doctor appointments, etc. We are on a grief journey and for me I try to take it a day at a time, volunteer, take classes.. My heart still very broken. It is very okay to cry and be emotional. You have lost the most precious love in your life .... Much peace to you...

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by dp2015 on Sun Sep 20, 2015 02:31 AM

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my thoughts are no, not an emotional imbalance and yes join a support group or individual grief counseling

I tend to like individual counsel when I don't want to hear anyone else's worries when mine feel to heavy to bear but for some other people hearing others and sharing the grief helps

whatever works for you

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by dp2015 on Sun Sep 20, 2015 02:36 AM

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or maybe do something creative and artistic with your grief?

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by StephenS on Tue Sep 22, 2015 03:06 PM

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I know the answer to my own question. Its because i wanted what i had lost.  I didn't want change.  I didn't want a future.  I wanted to re-start the past starting on july 25, 1970 when this beautiful young lady said "i do".  I had created an impossible desire.  I was looking for a time machine to take me back in time.  Not god seeing me through my life as i lead it but a time machine returning me back into the past so i could relieve what i already had.  Read my latest post don't make the same mistake i did for what happened when i wished for something i could not have

 

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