Stage IV Lung Cancer Fatigue

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Stage IV Lung Cancer Fatigue

by dshook on Sat Feb 18, 2017 04:56 AM

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My mom was diagnosed about 6 weeks ago with stage IV lung cancer, it is in the lymph nodes and possible spots in her brain. She is doing the Zometa treatments and started taking the Tarveva 2 weeks ago. My mom is the type of person that never sat still, she is 68 and was loving life. Since the cancer diagnosis she has moved in with me so I could help with anything she needs. What I am finding is she doesn't seem to have any energy, I talk about doing fun things once she gets used to her medication, she puts it off and says maybe she will be able to. Do I push her to be more active or do I allow her to continue the way it is going? I don't want to seem like I am not taking her feelings into account but I also don't want her to wallow in the cancer. Any advice would be appreciated. My mom is my best friend I will do anything to help her have a quality of life.

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by jskoziol4 on Sat Feb 18, 2017 07:16 AM

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Don't push her.  I have Stage 4 as well and feel tired and winded over the smallest excertions.  Find fun things to do that don't require her to expend energy.

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by dshook on Sat Feb 18, 2017 07:20 AM

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Ok. I appreciate your response.  I read on the Internet and it talks about exercise and how it helps; my concern is that is will weaken her immune system if I push or she will not improve with out exercise.  I think I need to take a step back and let her take the lead. 

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by jskoziol4 on Sat Feb 18, 2017 08:01 AM

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Yeah, that makes sense. Help her exercise to the extent she feels she can. In mid-2014 I was at death's door and wanted NOTHING to do with exercise but I recovered andn walked around.

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by dshook on Sat Feb 18, 2017 05:02 PM

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If you don't mind me asking, but what treatment are you using? I am my moms caretaker and my siblings come and visit and offer advise but it is all left upon me. I just want to make sure I give her the best quality of life that is possible. I want to push her to want to live many more years. Her thing is always "Well if I am here". I want her to want to live. I understand her cancer is not cureable but it is treatable. 

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by SHELONDRIA on Tue Mar 21, 2017 01:07 AM

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On Feb 18, 2017 4:56 AM dshook wrote:

My mom was diagnosed about 6 weeks ago with stage IV lung cancer, it is in the lymph nodes and possible spots in her brain. She is doing the Zometa treatments and started taking the Tarveva 2 weeks ago. My mom is the type of person that never sat still, she is 68 and was loving life. Since the cancer diagnosis she has moved in with me so I could help with anything she needs. What I am finding is she doesn't seem to have any energy, I talk about doing fun things once she gets used to her medication, she puts it off and says maybe she will be able to. Do I push her to be more active or do I allow her to continue the way it is going? I don't want to seem like I am not taking her feelings into account but I also don't want her to wallow in the cancer. Any advice would be appreciated. My mom is my best friend I will do anything to help her have a quality of life.

Whatever you do dont keep asking her.If she is usually upbeat and says she tired,take her word for it.Stage 4 is the last stage and all that meficine,lack of appetite,worry about having cancer is enough streds on your mother.The only thing you can do at this point is read the bible to her,pray to Jesus for her & your strength & healing.Ask for help in picking her up to put her in a wheelchair while she is still able to move and take her by the windows or outside to see the scenery.You may have good intent and fear her outcome,but it can be selfish to have high expectations when you really cant relate to how she actually feels.

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by dshook on Wed Mar 22, 2017 01:40 AM

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Her doctors feel that she should be doing more also. She has been on the Tarceva for over a month and all the blood work has come back really well. Her doctor even told her to go on vacation. I am worried that it is depression slowing her down more so than the cancer. She is going to start rehab and I am hoping that she gets some energy back from doing some type of exercise. Her doctors will not give a time line for her life. They feel she needs to consentrate on staying alive then counting down numbers. 

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