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  • Ahole has replied to a post on the message board

    Oh, Marge, my heart goes out to you. I hate that you're having to struggle with physical pain along with your pain of losing your Don. I'm glad you are flexible in your care and can switch gears and try something different. All my good wishes are coming your way. I know you are a strong Warrior Woman and you can lick this. Wishing you peace this Easter season. - Love and Hugs, Patty

    March 30 at 3:54 PM view post
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      Pippy, bless your heart for posting such a story of hope and inspiration. Your father sounds like a special man with such courage to go against a physican's pronouncement and take his fate into his own hands.  I hate the way doctors so casually tell a patient to "enjoy what time you have left."  I still remember when they told my husband that. It was like watching a balloon slowly deflate. It took the figh...

      March 30 at 3:50 PM view post
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        Oh, Sweet Pete, I don't know why we were chosen for this monstrous challenge. What I do know is that others who have not been in our shoes just don't get it. We are a true family, brought together by our life's worst nightmare. Thank heavens we can be here to prop each other up and share our ups and downs.  You just keep loving and living and giving to your sweet wife, and yes, forget about things that don't ma...

        March 28 at 2:01 PM view post
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          So many questions, Mama, and so few answers. I know the difficult time that you are going through. Please stay strong, and know that you are not alone. - Caregiver Love, Patty

          March 28 at 1:47 PM view post
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            Lena, I see how much pain you're in, and I know the guilt makes it even worse. Consider this.....what if it were your sister or your best friend and not you? What would you tell them? I suspect you would be kind and caring and tell them that none of this is their fault. We are our own worst critics at a time when we really need compassion. Please don't judge yourself. You did the best you knew to do in the moment. No...

            March 25 at 1:56 PM view post
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              A trip to Spain definitely sounds special, Ray. I'm so happy you have that precious memory with Helen, and a great photo to cherish. Hope the rugby dinner was fun! - Patty

              March 24 at 2:52 PM view post
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                Marge, I remember this quote, "A long life is not always good enough; but a good life is always long enough."  I have to think that applies to marriages too, or anything else we do. It's the quality, not the quantity that counts and although you didn't have Don for long, it sounds like you had a really good relationship.  I still consider this a good, safe place to come to and I cherish the friends I've ma...

                March 24 at 2:50 PM view post
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                  Love your photo, Ray! And I applaud everything you said to our Gigi.  Gigi, if you're still here (and I hope you are) please know that you can talk to any one of us via private notes to avoid unwarranted scrutiny. None of us are in each others' shoes even though we share a similar heartache, and it's not up to us to tell you what to do.....only to hold your cyber-hand and let you know you're not alone. I wish yo...

                  March 23 at 5:11 PM view post
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                    Oh, Gini, I feel so bad for you. I can tell you are at the end of your rope and coming from a place of pure self-preservation. There is just nothing fair about any of what you or your husband have been made to experience. Cancer is so vicious and takes so much from good people. My thoughts and prayers are with you. I hope you have someone there who you can talk to at least to vent your frustration and not feel so alo...

                    March 22 at 11:06 PM view post
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                      Pete, you have all the best wishes and good juju I can muster for this new leg of the journey. With your wife's undaunted will to live and your warrior stance to fight for her with everything in you, you can't lose! All any of us ever need is a chance, and I'm thrilled that you have this one. I love it when I can feel your resolve and your courage. You've got this! - Caregiver Love Always, Peppermint

                      March 21 at 2:11 PM view post
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                      Head and Neck Cancer
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