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    PP, my thoughts and love are with you.  Ray

    Wednesday at 4:36 AM view post
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      Feeling very agitated today, can't get Helen off my mind and missing her so much.  I think it may be because I have decided to go see my son Lee and his family in York on the weekend. Its the first visit without Helen, I really don't want to go but know that I have to for me and my son.  I have avoided all other offers but I now need to grasp the nettle (as they say) and take the plunge.  Wish me luck....

      Tuesday at 3:02 PM view post
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        Thanks for your words Mickie.  Don't really know what came over me, after having my heart ripped out of me I started to agonise over a few £s!?*&.  After words from PP and Marge I soon got my head back on straight.  I also realised that Helen would have given me a kick up the backside as well. Its hard enough living without Helen without having to take on some stupid minimal financial crap. T...

        September 18 at 11:33 AM view post
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          Hi PP, no I dotn't have a pet, we did have a dig for the kids at one stage but not for a long time.  Have a bit of a dilema at present.  Its my brother-in-laws birthday party next weekend, its not his birthday until 8 October but he and Catherine (Helens sister) will be in South Africa then.  But my son has just invited me up to his place next weekend, his rugby club has a big game on the Saturday, and...

          September 16 at 9:04 PM view post
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            Hi Marisb, good to have you with us, you seemed to have joined us at a very very emotional time, but is'nt it always. Hope you get as much support as I have had in the last 2 months.

            September 14 at 6:53 PM view post
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              PP, you talked about doing the lasts, I am now doing lots of firsts and has Marge will confirm some are difficult and some are very difficult.  Yesterday I looked at the Calender and I see that it is Davids (my oldest lad) birthday next week (he will be 47!?%$) and I thought I can't remember when I last wrote him a birthday card, Helen allways did that.  I thought to myself another first and had a little we...

              September 14 at 2:31 PM view post
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                PP, hospice will allow you to spend more precious time with the Duke, will allow to have more one to one contact that counts, will allow you to build the last memories. Thought I had resolved the dribbling problem but when I went to take out a patent I found it had been done before - I think its called a table!! Lisa, take that trip, you both need and deserve it.

                September 14 at 2:24 PM view post
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                  Thanks all, I know you are all right and quite honestly I do feel a lot more relaxed.  Love your input PP, spot on.  I know I shall be re-visiting these responses over the coming days, weeks to keep me focused. Now a more difficult problem - why do I keep dribbling food down the front of me?  Is it old age or because I now eat all my food of a tray in front of the television? Answers please!!

                  September 14 at 8:15 AM view post
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                    I hear what you say Marge but it is so unfair.  I uprooted Helen twice to move hundreds of miles away from our home and Helen spent long days and nights on her own whilst I worked away in soulless hotels just to improve our position. (Catherine moved 1/2 mile away from home).  And on the assumption that I would go first I ensured that Helen would be well taken care of and now this!! Barbara (Helen's mother)...

                    September 13 at 9:45 PM view post
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                      HELP!! I think I need help, am I being so selfish! Saw my mother-in-law today.  On her original will she had left everything between Helen and her sister Catherine, and if anything happened to either Helen or Catherine before she passed their children (our 2 and Catherines 2) would inherit their mothers share of the inheritance.  Helen's mother told me today that she was changing her will to leave everythin...

                      September 13 at 7:28 PM view post
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