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  • Ray725 has replied to a post on the message board

    Betsyjean, it is so difficult to respond to your message because it brings back crushing memories of my last few weeks with Helen. All of us here share the brutality of cancer in its various forms.  We can't physically be with you Betsyjean but we can share your emotions with you and hope to provide you with some emotional support to meet the difficulties that you are facing.  And the biggest issue is as yo...

    January 05 at 3:11 PM view post
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      Pete, so glad your girl is doing so well just keep putting in that hard work and it will continue.  Loved your poem, it made me cry but it also made me happy.  Some time ago I would have just cried. I find myself in a better place at the present time and I hope it lasts.  Helen made me so happy for 50 years remembering those last few days and hours were really bringing me down and drowning out those ha...

      January 04 at 12:11 PM view post
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        JUst want to wish the best for 2018 to all my CC friends.  Seem to have come through the holidays relatively unscathed.  Had a few moments when with my sons but nothing to dramatic.  Helens really good friend from Manchester phoned New Years Eve, to talk.  Told me she went out for Christmas dinner to a local restaurant with her family and they all finished the meal with a coffee and Tia Maria (Hel...

        January 02 at 10:21 PM view post
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          Its just 10.45 here, In York (UK) with son Lee and the family.  They are all in bed and I am having a final whiskey (or two!) and just want to wish all my really good CC friends as good a Christmas as they can have and hope the following days are OK and 2018 gives more promise.  I love you all for how you have helped through the last few months, you all realise how good this contact is.  Ray

          December 24 at 10:43 PM view post
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            Feeling really quite happy at present.  Yesterday I sent my 2 grandaughters a Christmas Jumper. Helen had always always bought them a Christmas jumper and I thought that she would want me to do it this year.  I am not very good at this thing but I bought the jumpers and sent them off.  This evening I got a facebook picture sent from my grandaughter Lucy (she's 18) wearing her jumper and I think she loo...

            December 05 at 10:18 PM view post
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              December 05 at 10:11 PM
              • Ray725 has replied to a post on the message board

                Got home very early this evening, 5.30pm, and was not looking forward to the long evening before me but had a really nice melancholy evening.  Had something to eat, chicken curry made by my own fair hand yesterday and then started wizzing through the channels for something to watch and came across the film - "The best exotic marigold hotel" - film about a number of british pensioners who go to a retirement home ...

                December 02 at 10:28 PM view post
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                  Hope you are not on your own at christmas Marge!!  I know that its so so difficult trying to find what is best for you and I sometimes thought I just wanted to be left alone but I became to realise I needed people (hopefully my people) around me. But as you say its going to be a difficult time for some of us. 2 hours/2 1/2 hours is OK I have to drive 5 hours - go for it!! Went out on Sunday with Helen's mother ...

                  November 29 at 10:20 PM view post
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                    Hi Patty and all. Glad to hear your thanksgiving went well, but that pretending does take some getting used too.  Fortunately I don't get many comments when I seem to go of into the distance perhaps friends and family get used to it too.  Don't envy you with the Christmas Eve party, its that decision making that I am have difficulty with as well.  I am going to my sons for christmas, Christmas Eve and ...

                    November 29 at 3:38 PM view post
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                      Got home earlier this evening and as getting out of the car my neighbour Colleen asks how I was doing. Said the usual things about getting there but struggling etc.  but on talking about Helen (and it was drizzilling rain) I could see that Colleen was quitely crying.  I just did not know what to do or say!! Was she crying for me for herself???  Helen and Colleen were very close for neighbours, they did...

                      November 20 at 10:21 PM view post
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