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    Dear Stan and everyone else out there who has lost so deeply everything that made the world smile and tomorrow hold promises in otherwords a spouse. After four and one half years I met a lady, only 69 years old, who had lost her mate too and in the past six months we have gone from emails to dinners out to my telling her I love her. That was unimaginable just a year ago. I had been unwilling to move on. I wanted to s...

    March 24 at 4:55 PM view discussion
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      Dear Emilyyy, i lost my wife five years ago. I loved her and she loved me and God gave us each the best possible life partner we could possibly have asked him for. But she is not here on earth any longer and life without her is absolutely miserable. Yes, I have three children and eleven grandkids and they do everything to love me and care for me and show me their love, but they are not Kathy and they are not there to...

      February 28 at 10:41 PM view post
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        THIS MAY BE MY LAST POST, NOT BECAUSE I DO NOT LOVE ALL OF YOU WHO HAVE SHARED WITH ME THE LOSS OF A LOVED ONE, BUT BECAUSE MY STORY HAS MOVED ON TO LIFE AFTER RECOVERING FROM THE LOSS AND THIS SIGHT IS MEANT FOR THOSE SEEKING HELP, UNDERSTANDING, AND SHARING IN ANGUISH, GRIEF, AND SADNESS. I CAN ONLY HOPE THAT I HAVE HELPED SOME OF YOU.  I KNOW SOME OF YOU HAVE BEEN A WONDERFUL HELP TO ME. BUT THEN AGAIN WHO KN...

        February 28 at 10:31 PM view discussion
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          Correction:  "very very best with FOR ME" was suppose to be very very best wife FOR ME" Sorry for the error. Should proof better before sending 

          February 28 at 10:26 PM view post
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            Hi friends and my extended family. Well on Saturday, March 2nd it will be five years ago that my world ended when my wife of forty four years passed away after a 14 month battle with pancreatic cancer. It was a struggle those first four years to make it through each day and each day seemed to be not worth living if it were not for God and my children all of whom showed me such love and caring that I woke another day ...

            February 28 at 10:20 PM view discussion
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              Dear Loveurself, I did not respond immediately to your outcry of pain and sorrow at the loss of your spouse and best friend as the pain you were suffering was so great that I felt you would not listen to what I have to say.  I lost my wife to pancreatic cancer four and one half years ago and the pain and loss is as great today as it was on the first day after she died. We did not even know she had cancer until ...

              September 07, 2018 view post
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                Stan, I can't remember if you ever mentioned your age or not. I remember your bouts with injuries/sickness but not sure about your age.  In any event, and oh by the way I am 72 if I failed to mention that, if you are retired, which I am not as that is what makes life worth living still, then you absolutely positively need to volunteer your time to some organization near you, be it a school, as a school aid, or a...

                August 27, 2018 view post
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                  Just stopped by for a second and saw your post.  I am so glad you are able to move forward with life.  I am still stuck. Every once in a while there is a glimmer of light but then it clouds back over again.  I know I must go forward and I put on a brave face and I am there for my family, just as they are for me, but without a next best friend life still is barely worth the living.  Well enough of ...

                  August 21, 2018 view post
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                    I learned how to be grandma at that first Thanksgiving when Andrew, one of my grandchildren, asked me "Grandpa, why didn't grandma send me a birthday card?"  Needless to say that really tore deep into my heart and I promised that would never happen again.  It's important to keep family life going even when you don't want to. I could go on for hours about how and what they have said and how it has stung and ...

                    March 27, 2018 view post
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                      Well Stan I always read with interest your insights and struggles as they help me and let me realize we are all in the same "life" boat.  I am just twenty four hours away from heading north to Virginia to be with two of my children and seven of my eleven grandchildren for Easter.  You are so right about family and how putting all of your energy and time into loving and giving and sharing with tem makes life...

                      March 27, 2018 view post
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